1/23/13: The Checklist…Part 2

I realized recently that I have created this checklist in my head of things I need –feel compelled — to do. These are not things anyone else–least of all L–expects me to do. They are completely self-imposed. Still I find the ability to ‘check them off’ one by one incredibly therapeutic. Here are some examples…

  • when my brother and sister-in-law came to visit they stayed with me and for the three nights they were here we probably grew closer in those three days/nights than we’ve been in years. Each night we sat out on the balcony (this is Florida after all!) and talked until past midnight…it was a wonderful visit.
  • next I went with a group of friends to Sanibel Island off the Gulf Coast of Florida for a long weekend of shelling. The tides were supposed to be especially low during this time and that usually bodes well for finding treasures on the beach. We were up and out before daylight most mornings–flashlights in hand. But the truly special parts of that was shutting off the lights and just standing on the beach looking up at the sky–black with billions of stars. It was so inspiring, so indicative of our insignificance in the great universe. I spent hours walking the beaches where L and I planned out huge chunks of our life together–when he decided to go on his own with the Mom-and-Pop business that sustained us for years; when I went (kicking and screaming) to work for corporate America so we would have health insurance; when we planned my next book or our next trip…so many memories created on those beaches.
  • last weekend I traveled to visit friends  south of here who had for the last several years always had to come to us because L could not handle the traveling to their homes; it was strange driving by myself (thank goodness for GPS!!) and it’s still hard being a “single” when we are out to eat, but overall it was a good visit with wonderful friends who have played significant roles in our life.

The checklist also includes other things–finances, decisions about the future, my writing projects and deadlines…somehow it works for me to complete each project or item…I suspect it is a way of moving forward. And in the final analysis that is what this journey is really about…


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